The Intimacy Advantage
The Secret Edge AI Can't Replace in Love, Work, and Life
Real stories + Science behind Intimacy + Practical Tips
What if you're not bad at connecting, but just not connecting in a way that's true to you?
Do you find that general relationship advice often doesn't work for you? Most people struggle with intimacy not because they’re broken, but because they’ve been trying to bond in a way that doesn’t match how they’re wired or what they've learned about love. Some people find intimacy through deep, intellectual conversations. Others through raw emotional expressions or close physical touch. And then there are people who feel lit up by the other person's excitement. Before we delve into what will work for you, it helps to understand your intimacy style.
Take the quiz to understand how your childhood conditioning, personality type, and experience shape how you connect. Maybe you'll finally connect in a way that works.
About The Intimacy Advantage
The Intimacy Advantage is currently only digital content but there will be more offerings to come. Here is who The Intimacy Advantage content is for and what you'll get...
High achievers who struggle with connection
Are you a high achiever whose special skill is powering through life with discipline, only to discover that it somehow doesn’t work with relationships and connection?
Don’t worry — I’ve got you. I share tangible tools that don’t require you to become someone else, fix anyone, or lose your edge.
Connection-craving introverts
You’re a connection-craving introvert and often feel misunderstood. It’s not that you don’t want connection, it just needs to be meaningful. Small talk drains you but you don't know how to go deep.
I’ll help you cut through the shallowness with meaningful questions and easy openers to engage people without having to talk too much. You’ll experience the surprising delight of being able to turn strangers into friends wherever you go.
Analytical people who hate fluffy relationship advice
You’re wired for facts, logic & data — You want to improve at connection but are tired of all the fluffy relationship advice out there. You want research-backed solutions, not recycled Instagram therapy speak. I’m a trained scientist who reads the journals so you don’t have to. I’ll only provide tips that are research or data-backed.
People who feel "Stuck"
You feel “stuck” even though you’ve done all the things you were supposed to do. You’ve checked all the boxes only to feel that there must be more to life than your passionless marriage, the same small talk at work, and reliving the glory days with your college buddies.
I’ll teach you how to enrich every single connection in your life by sharing real-life scenarios and stories of how people have transformed their relationships.
Why me?
Tested in real-life, not in classrooms
I don't have formal qualifications in relationships but what I do have is arguably more useful: thousands of hours of real-life experiments in intimacy—tested everywhere from small towns to hostels to boardrooms.
I’ve lived and travelled across dozens of cities and four continents with one rule: to have at least one meaningful conversation with a stranger every day.
My version of “research” involves, I’ve designing social experiments for myself that generally have a high risk of rejection or embarrassment—all in the name of understanding what really makes people feel connected.
What I share on isn’t theory—it’s field-tested human behavior. This is the stuff that works in real life, when you're on a bad date, trying to lead a difficult team, or wondering why your partner suddenly became a stranger.
The upside? I’ve learned exactly what makes people open up, soften, and show their real selves. And you get to skip the awkward parts and just steal the good stuff.
I've been there...
I’m a classic overachiever. Which means that at some point, I climbed every ladder, and wondered and asked myself the question you're probably asking yourself, "Is this all there is?"
Success isn’t the secret to happiness. Relationships are. But only connections with real intimacy. The kind where you don't have to perform, pretend or impress.
I tried treating relationships like I treated every other goal: work hard, learn fast, do it right. But intimacy doesn’t reward effort the way a fitness plan does. You can read all the books, and still feel lost. Because unfortunately, human beings are complex, messy creatures.
I was painfully shy as a child. But eventually I researched enough and experimented enough to know that intimacy doesn’t have to be found, you can create it.
What I offer isn’t a rigid, step-by-step framework—it’s a set of tools to help you see, be seen, and that celebrate your unique self.
But this is the real reason
There are two kinds of writers in this world:
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The kind you follow for the content.
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The kind you follow because the you like the writer.
I hope to fall into the latter category. I hope that at the end of the day, though the topic is what led you to me, what you ultimately connected with — is me.
I want you to feel things when you read my articles. I want you to feel that you’re not the only one who feels the weird and wonderful things you do in life. I want you to laugh, to cry, to remember emotions you’ve kept deeply buried, and be constantly surprised by what you’ve learned.
I don’t have it all figured out.
But I hope that when you read my work, it feels like one of those conversations where you’re pouring your heart out to your best friend until 4am in the morning. Hopefully, one day, we’ll get to do that in real life.
Curious about the human behind it all?
Click the button below for a collection of random facts about me. Reach out on may@intimacyadvantage.me if you find something you can connect with or relate to.
